You kidding? Richard loves cruel posts directed at him. It's like a
whip from his favorite S&M gal. He doesn't seem to like "nice" posts
directed at him (you won't get a reply).
Post by feste37
I thought your post about Richard was somewhat cruel, and I was trying
to soften the impact so that Serious Richard might feel a little less
unwelcome here. You are of course correct about a difference between
routine behaviors and addiction. But I am unconvinced that Serious
Richard is any more addicted to posting to FFL than a number of other
Your response has many inaccuracies and incorrect assumptions, many of
Routine activities - 'things we like to do on a regular basis' - are
not addictions, and your statement that they are is complete nonsense.
In this statement alone, you lose all credibility. You have no
understanding of what constitutes addiction.
Your notion that assessing or recognizing a behavior is an addiction
as being 'mean-spirited' is again, quite simply, nonsense. Apart from
assigning to me a motivation that I don't have, your statement
indicates that your perceptions of addiction (likely unacknowledged on
your part) are that addiction is a moral failing or is being used as a
You live in Fairfield. Considering events in FF over the last few
years. I suggest to you that you examine such perceptions, and to put
it bluntly, that you gain some rudimentary knowledge and see both how
incorrect and offensive these perceptions are.
In fact, if you care to read Serious Richard's posts, you will surely
see they are intelligent and well thought out.
Not surprisingly, I disagree with you that Richard's posts have been
'intelligent and well thought out'. However, more revealing to me is
your arrogant assumption that I have not read them. Do you really
think I would comment about someone's posts if I hadn't read them?
No, I dont think that you do. But this is in line with your assignment
of 'mean-spirited' motivations to Michael, Barry, me, and others when
we have made comments that you do not like.
Feel free to assign whatever motivations you want to me (FFL is the
perfect place for this). But don't try to dress it up in some kind of
discussion about the nature of addiction, about which your perspective
is completely flawed.
You can call it addiction if you want to be mean-spirited. Most of us
have addictions of some kind or another. We can also think of them
simply as our routineâthings we like to do on a regular basis. In that
sense I am addicted to checking my email, playing Lexulous on
Facebook, checking into Fairfield Life, and a number of other things.
Serious Richard's so-called addiction is no more pronounced than that
of many other posters here, who say the same dreary old things day
after day, week after week, month after month, year after year.In
fact, if you care to read Serious Richard's posts, you will surely see
they are intelligent and well thought out. But of course, give a dog a
bad name and hang him, that's the name of the game here.
And so Richard is back, and here is my prediction of how his behaviors will play out.
Richard will continue to exhibit classic behaviors of a person with an
addiction. As I noted in a previous post (included below), he is (and
clearly was, prior to his banning) unable to control his behavior here.
Asking an addict to control his behavior, or giving him a 'second
chance', or asking him to modify his behavior is pointless. That is,
each of these alternatives has a 0% chance of success. Because,
truthfully, one is not asking the addict - one is asking the
addiction. And addictions do not respond to reason, to pleading, to
being asked nicely, to being ignored, or to being argued with. An
addiction can only respond to whatever the addict needs in order to
get high. /Nothing else matters./ This is true across all kinds of
addiction, whether to substances or behaviors. So to stop the
addictive behavior one takes away the means to get high - there is no
When deprived of the opportunity to get a high, addicts will engage in
whatever behaviors they can in order to get the high their mind-body
system needs. These behaviors obviously differ among addictions, but
they have the following characteristics (among others): manipulation,
playing the victim, and minimizing.
In Richard's case, this behavior has been to write to Rick to /"let me
subscribe to the group because some informants were still talking
about me and I wanted to post a few replies/." This sentence is a
textbook example of the above three characteristics of addict
behavior: manipulation and playing the victim (/'let me subscribe to
the group because some informants were still talking about me/'), and
minimizing (/'I wanted to post a few replies'/).
And so Richard is back and, within a relatively short period of time,
his behavior will be exactly the same as it was previously. It cannot
be stopped by Richard, no matter how much we might like that to be the
case. It will only be stopped by him being banned again.
It is not that Richard can choose to leave FFL or change the character
If in the very unlikely event that Richard decided that he would like
to stop posting or change the nature of his posts, he wouldn't be able
to do so. Even if no one FFL were never to interact with him or refer
to him from this moment on, he will continue to troll the group.
Rick let me subscribe to the group because some informants were still
talking about me and I wanted to post a few replies.So, I promised not
to out anyone's real name - now this is funny - since I subscribed
three people in the group have outed me. You can't make this stuff up,
Don't look at me. When I saw the subscription request, I left it for
Rick to handle. Richard made no attempt to conceal his identity, so
Rick approved the subscription, knowing fully well who it is. Rick's
kind of a softie about stuff like that; after some period of time, he
usually lets people back in. Years ago, there was another person who
was far more deserving of being permanently booted, and Rick even let
him back in.
Rick or Alex, If memory serves this arsehole has been barred from
posting. Please send him back to wherever he's been dragging out his
miserable existence since he last wasted everyone's time here.